Everyone has a bad day now and then. It's natural, it's human.  No one expects you to be perpetually sunny and cheerful every day.  It is healthy to release your frustrations. We all know that when we keep sentiments bottled up, they ferment over time, aggregate, and eventually explode.  You are a ticking time bomb.  All it takes is one subtle stimulus to set you off, and then the damage is done.  You go off.  The pieces you have to pick up after you blow are massive. You regret what you have said, what you have done, and perhaps even you have wounded a relationship with a friend or family member.

The trick here is, to manage how you react to your frustrations, your anger, your sadness.  Mind you, I didn't say to ignore or deny your feelings, rather I said to manage your reactions to your feelings.  We must acknowledge what we are feeling.  Look at it, understand it, then deal with it. If we deny what we are feeling on a regular basis, over time we will begin to grow numb - another zombie.

How you manage your feelings can determine whether you grow as a person emotionally or if you regress.  Forward growth is always better than stagnation.  If you regress, pieces of you die inside.  Life is the ultimate pursuit.  Although our emotions our very powerful, and more often than not, dictate how we relate to life, we must not allow our emotions to govern how we live life.  They say the heart should rule the mind, but do you truly want to give your heart exclusive rule over your sensibility? I sure don't.  There needs to be a balance between the heart and the mind.

This is why we should live in the moment, rather than the past or the future.  If out attentions are focused on the latter two, than we miss out on what is going on all around us, we miss out on opportunities.  So the first thing to do in managing your emotions is to focus on the present.  When you start to feel a tinge of emotion be it anger, sadness, jealousy, or hatred, allow yourself to feel the emotion. Do not deny it. Do not allow your guilt over having these feelings direct you. Just sit in the emotion, let it envelope you, observe it, how it changes your attitude about everything. Then look at the reasons why you are feeling these things. What caused you to feel this way?

Once you understand the motivations behind what you are feeling, then you can begin to take action on it.  If you are feeling rage toward someone, do not allow your rage to control how you react to that person. Do not lash out. Rather, take deep breaths, and manage what you are feeling.  A moment of carelessness on your part could damage a relationship with someone for a long time. So before you say those harsh words impulsively, take deep breaths, then just forgive that person, and talk to them about what you are feeling in a calm manner. They will appreciate you more if you give them that respect, even though they may not have afforded you the same respect.

Words and actions can be very destructive.  So before you say something in anger to someone else, take a step back and understand why you are feeling the way you are feeling.  Do not deny what you are feeling, do not ignore it, deal with it in a positive and healthy manner.  Remember, all the energy you radiate into the universe be it positive or negative will come back to you eventually.  Life is a circle.  The more positive vibes you send out, the more that will return to you.  Put out negative energy, and the same will come back to haunt you one day. I have seen this cycle over and over again during the course of my life.

So sure, I get pissed off at people for what they do to me or what they say to me, but I don not allow my emotions to get the best of me.  I am not a ticking time bomb.  I rule over my emotions, they do not rule over me.  I take a few moment every day to sit silently and observe what I am feeling, to study why I am feeling this way.  Not only have I grown mentally, emotionally, and spiritually because of this practice, but my relationships with other have grown positively as well.  People seem to know that I am a cool and calm person, they feel comfortable being themselves around me, and they come to me when they have problems of their own that need attention.

Never allow your emotions to dictate the path you take in life.  Lead with your mind and your heart equally.  And you will see, over time, that your attitude on life will transform for the positive!

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